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Take a Loved One to the Doctor

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Less Than 1/2 a Day
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Health & Wellness, Seniors
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Many of us disregard the importance of regular checkups. Some of us avoid doctor visits out of fear and others simply because it’s not part of our routine. When your loved one puts off seeing the doctor, a small health problem can become a more serious one. And some of the most serious health issues don’t always have obvious symptoms. 

You may be the one person who can convince your loved one to go to the doctor. Give it a try.

Often just by asking some basic questions about diet and lifestyle and running some quick tests, a doctor can assess someone’s health and well-being. The doctor may be able to suggest behaviors or treatments to dramatically lower the risk of serious health problems.

It’s important for people of all ages to see a doctor regularly. People age 50 and over should see a doctor at least once a year.

African-Americans face a higher risk of some serious health conditions, including diabetes, stroke, high blood pressure, cancer, asthma and obesity.

This guide provides advice regarding how to talk to your loved one about going to the doctor, being prepared for your appointment and other useful resources. Keep reading for this and more information, you might just save a loved one's life!


You might need to turn on your powers of persuasion to get your loved one to agree to see a doctor. Many people have a long list of reasons for avoiding doctors’ visits. Don’t fight every point. Just ask them to do it for you and the rest of the family. Tell them you want to enjoy their company for many years to come, and this is one quick, easy step in helping to make that happen.

If your loved one is uninsured, visit to get the facts about coverage under the Health Care Law.  Also check out the Resources for Finding Health Centers for the Sevices You Need When Uninsured below.

Preparing a little in advance will help your loved one get a lot more out of the doctor visit. Here are some suggestions of information to gather before you go see the doctor. Remember: The most important thing is going to the doctor, so don’t worry if you cannot get all of this information together before the visit.

  • Questions: Help your loved one take control of his or her health by making sure the doctor addresses all of your questions thoroughly. The best way to do this? Write the questions down in advance. See "Questions to Ask Your Doctor."
  • Medications: Take your loved one's medications to the doctor visit so the doctor can see the dose and frequency of each drug.
  • Health history: Write down diseases, surgeries, and family history of cancer, diabetes, heart disease and take the list to the doctor visit. Find "Health History Tips" and the "Personal Medication Record" near the end of this guide.

The Additional Resources section includes links where you can find health tips and suggested health screenings for all ages. You may want to review the age-appropriate list for your loved one and take it along with you on your visit.

Your loved one may not want you to join him or her in the examination room. Do not insist on doing so, but do try to ensure that you and your loved one get all of your questions answered before the appointment ends. If the doctor seems to be rushing through the appointment, be polite but firm in asking for more time for your loved one. Remember: Your loved one is the paying customer. Do not leave the doctor’s office until ALL of your questions are answered! A staff nurse or physician assistant may also be helpful in answering questions.

If you are in the appointment, take notes for your loved one. If not, urge him or her to write down the doctor’s answers to the questions and any special instructions on lifestyle and diet changes.

If the doctor orders follow-up tests — for example, blood tests for cholesterol, diabetes or other conditions — make sure you get clear instructions on how and where to do the tests and whether there is any out-of-pocket expense. Having this information will make getting the tests go more smoothly.

If the doctor conveys concern about a potential serious health condition, remain calm. Gather as much information as you can from the doctor, and never agree to any drastic actions — such as scheduling a surgery — without seeking a second opinion from another doctor.

Based on the doctor visit, your loved one may need to start new medications, begin a daily exercise routine or change his or her diet. Such changes may seem small, but they can feel burdensome to some people, for example, by implying that the patient has been misbehaving for years! Be sensitive to your loved one and commit as much time as you can to helping them make any transitions that will improve their health.

Let’s be real: Lifestyle changes can be hard. For example, it’s not often easy for some people to start exercising.But most people can start walking more. Walking is easy, convenient and inexpensive. Nearly everyone can do it at any skill level, from grandparents to children. Plus it has the lowest dropout rate and injury rate of all exercise programs.

Studies show that people who have exercise partners — even if for a simple 10-minute walk a few days a week — stick with their exercise plans better than people who try to go it alone. So help your loved one find a neighbor or friend to walk with.

Also, almost everyone who commits to lifestyle changes will occasionally slip up by overeating, sneaking a cigarette or skipping a day or two of exercise. That’s okay! We’re all human. The key is to get your loved one to view those events as minor interruptions, not an end to their health effort.

Keeping a list of medications can help you and your loved one keep track of what they are taking, including prescriptions and over-the-counter medicines and supplements. Check out the handy "Personal Medication Record" near the end of this guide.

One easy way you can continue to help is by having a daily phone call with your loved one — just a few minutes — to check in and ask how everything’s going.

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Your relationship with your doctor, including how well you talk with each other, affects your care. A good relationship — where you and your doctor share information and work together to make the best decisions about your health — will result in the best care. In addition to bringing your medications (or a list of them) and a list of any symptoms you may have, here are some questions to make talking to your doctor more effective:


  • What is wrong? How do you know? What caused this problem?


  • What tests do I need and why?
  • What do the tests involve?
  • How do I prepare for the tests?
  • When will I know the test results?
  • Will my insurance cover the costs of the tests?


  • What are my treatment choices?
  • What are the benefits and risks of each treatment?
  • What are the side effects?
  • Which treatment is most common for my condition?
  • What do I do if treatment fails?


  • What kind of medication(s) must I take? For how long?
  • What does the drug do? Will there be any side effects?
  • What should I do if I have side effects?
  • Can I take a generic version of the drug?
  • Will the medicine interact with any I am already taking?
  • Should I avoid any kind of food or activity while taking this medicine?


  • Do I need to see a specialist? Should I get a second opinion?
  • Do I need a follow-up visit?



Keeping a written health history can improve the health care you get and help you stay well. It serves as a memory device and a communication tool. Having a record of your health is especially handy when you have limited time during a doctor visit. Information your doctor might need to diagnose and treat you will be at your fingertips.

What to Include
You don't have to be an organization freak to keep health records. Nor do you need to spend countless hours of your time. At a minimum, you can use charts or blank pages in a journal or notebook to record:

  • personal identification, including name, birth date and blood type
  • doctor visits and date of last physical
  • dates and results of tests, shots, procedures or health screenings
  • any major illnesses or surgeries you've had and when
  • a list of all the medications you take, the dosages and how long you've been taking them

Other Information to Write Down

  • any chronic conditions you have
  • all allergies, including drug and food allergies
  • the names of your pharmacist and all your doctors, with their addresses and telephone numbers
  • family history of illnesses, such as cancer, heart disease, diabetes and mental illness
  • the name and phone number of an emergency contact and/or caregiver
  • the name, policy number, address and telephone number of your health insurance company
  • whether you have an advance directive or living will
  • organ donor authorization
  • opinions and correspondence from specialists and other medical procedures
  • history of any counseling recieved
  • lifestyle habits: smoking, drinking, sleep, exercise, eating (how much, how often)

And for a great online tool for writing your health history, check out My Family Health Portrait at



Use this handy medication record,, to keep track of your loved one’s medications. Share it with their doctors and make some copies for family members.



Checklists for screening and health at any age:

Women: Stay Healthy at 50+ Checklists for your health:

Men: Stay Healthy at 50+ Checklists for your health:

You want to take good care of yourself and your family, but have lost the health insurance you had or do not have the coverage you need for all your health care concerns. Finding a clinic and navigating program benefits may be confusing at best. The good news is that the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Health Resources and Services Administration (HRSA) has identified helpful web-based tools to assist you.

Search Affordable Clinics: HRSA’s Online Find a Health Center Search Tool -

  • Find a federally funded health center located near you.
  • Search for health facilities by address, state or county.
  • If you need help with your search, contact the HRSA Information Center at the toll-free number, 1-888-275-4772, to speak with an Information Specialist who will assist you.
  • Information Specialists are available 8:30 a.m. - 5:00 p.m. EST, Monday-Friday.

AARP has the facts and answers to commonly asked questions about the Health Care Law at

Obtain Free or Reduced-Cost Health Care -

  • According to the Hill-Burton Act, all health care facilities receiving government funds under Title XVI are required to provide free or reduced-cost health and clinical services to eligible individuals.
  • Information packets are available by calling the Hill-Burton Hotline 1-800-638-0742 (1-800-492-0359 in Maryland).

Discover Federal and State Assistance Programs for Older Americans: AARP Benefits QuickLINK -

  • The AARP Foundation has a benefits finder tool that allows you to search for a wide variety of federal and state level benefits programs.
  • AARP Benefits QuickLINK focuses on benefits programs for older Americans.
  • Benefits programs include food and prescription assistance.

Get Help Obtaining Prescription Drugs -

NeedyMeds is a nonprofit database that helps patients locate low-cost prescription drug programs.

  • Search by specific drug name to find what specific assistance programs are available for your prescription.
  • Information is available for generic and brand name drugs.

Learn About Federal Government Benefits -

  • GovBenefits is the official website of the U.S. government with information on over 1,000 benefit and assistance programs.
  • Benefits areas include health care, Medicare and Medicaid and disability assistance.



Checklists for screening and health at any age -

Health Checklists for Men and Women Age 50+ -

Easy form for listing all the medications you take -

How to choose good medical care (from the Agency for Healthcare Research and Quality) -

Preparing for a doctor visit (video) -

Talking with your doctor — why it’s important -

Ask the right questions about your prescriptions (video) -

Becoming a partner in your own care -

Top health problems for African-Americans -